March 9, 2010 0

One Hundred Days to the other side…

By admin in 100 Days, Health

Photo by Scarabus

I haven’t posted recently because I’ve been busy killing myself at my martial arts school, Self Mastery Systems www.selfmasterysystems.org
I decided to do this very intense program called, The Hundred Days. It sounds intimidating, right? It’s 100 days of working out (Shaolin Kung Fu & Tai Chi Chuan), 4-5 hours a day, with no off days…
I debated whether or not to write about it since it will most likely be a very personal journey, but if Musing Myself is about growing as a person and discovering new bliss-inducing ways of life, then it’d very fitting to write about my journey into Shaolin Monk territory.

Here’s a catch up on the first week:

Day 1: Five hours, thirty mins….I can barely stand. And look there’s a camera guy filming me sweat and stagger as I try to keep up with my classmates during roundhouse kicks. Now he zooming in on my face. Lovely. Home around 9pm. Dinner. Bed.
Day 2: Five hours. OW! I hate this. I prepared for 100 Days by being as lazy as possible and “resting up”. I realize now this was dumb.
Day 3-6: Four hours, thirty mins. Hey I’m getting better! And I’m not dead yet.
Day 7: Seriously considered quitting. Everything hurts. Don’t human beings need a break? A day off in between? Or at least one day off a week? I decide to go for one more day and see how I feel. Afterward I feel better and decide to keep pushing through to Day 100. I come home and immediately pass out on my boyfriend’s chest while he works on his laptop. (Apparently I was having dream conversations with people because when I woke up and started talking to him he thought I was still sleep talking.)

I am trying to have no expectations as to what this experience will bring. But I do intend to get stronger, push myself farther than I’ve ever gone before, and hopefully change almost all of my daily habits. Okay so I lied, I have lots of expectations as to what this experience will bring.

February 13, 2010 4

3 Things to never do after a breakup, and 3 things to get you over it.

By admin in Relationships

photo by Complejo

Breakups suck. But if you’re going through one I have great news: The worst of it is over now. Congratulations, you’re no longer stuck in relationship limbo wondering when/if you’ll break up. It happened. It’s over. And that’s a very good thing because being stuck in limbo of any kind is sucky, and you’re not the kind of person to settle for sucky, now are you?

A lot of the pain you’re feeling is fear. You’re not sure what’s going to come next, if you’ll ever find love again, or what to do with yourself on the weekends. And that’s okay. You’re allowed to feel fear, but just know the pain and fear will fade as you keep going.

You can’t control how someone else feels, but you can control how you act. You don’t want to look back on this horribly difficult break up period and think “Oh good, I drunk dialed my dignity away in less than 2 days. Go me!” Because when all this passes (and it will) all you’ll have is you. Hopefully a stronger, funnier, happier you with his/her dignity still intact.

I highly recommend this book It’s Called a Breakup Because it’s Broken. The authors are that guy who wrote He’s Just Not That Into You, and his wife (who I guess WAS that into him, get it! Hahahaha…ok, I’ll stop.) Anyway, this book made me laugh at a time when life seemed grey and sad and lonely and for that it’s worth the $3 used price on Amazon!

Please Please Please DO NOT do any of these things:

X #1 Have sex with them.

Sure it’ll feel good for a while, but once it’s over you’re both still the same two people incapable of making a relationship with each other work. Orgasms are not superglue they will not hold the two of you together. Sex with your ex is like pouring salt in a wound. Actually it’s not at all since salt in a wound would hurt like a bitch whereas the sex might actually be enjoyable. But my point is sex with your ex will only reopen those wounds you spent so much energy trying to heal. And now you get to feel heartbroken AND cheap when they walk away after the deed is done. Sexy, huh?

X #2 Text, call, email or randomly show up at his favorite hangout, work, Mom’s house.

When one person wants out of the relationship this is not a problem that can be talked out. After you’ve had a few drinks I know that texting “IDK why U don’t LUV me N-E-more?!” seems like a brilliant idea but it’s not. Do not hit send. Do not call. They don’t want to talk to you.

Besides there’s nothing to talk about. When one person has decided they no longer want to continue the relationship you can’t talk it out. You can’t use logic, reasoning, guilt or begging to make someone love you. And how are you planning to cut that painful emotional tie if you keep listening to their voicemail every two hours? Put the phone down. Please.

As for the misguided, yet perfectly orchestrated “chance” meeting you have all planned out in your head: Don’t do it. See figure 7.2 for details.

Figure 7.2

X #3 Look at their Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, etc.

Really, do you feel better now? His life is going on without you. Do you feel better to see he’s partying with his boys or worse some girl or even worse his ex. Anyway, who cares what he’s doing with his life, this is your life. You’re the main character! Go live your life and leave his Facebook statuses and tagged photos alone.

Definitely DO these things:

(Click the READ MORE link for 3 awesome things you can do to get over your breakup and get back to your amazing self!)

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February 5, 2010 0

Break through your Creative Block, or at least do something slightly amusing.

By admin in Creativity

photo by Archan Nair

I’m so uninspired right now I’d gladly let the Devil play with my idle hands…I bet he’d come up with some GREAT ideas, before things went sour and I inevitably learn my lesson for making deals with the devil that involve my hands and his playground…

So great, I’ve got a creative block as soon as I begin this little website in which the SOLE purpose is to help you all find your inspiration. *sigh* I think I’ll check the interwebs and see what they say…

Let’s play the Google Images can Explain Life To You game!!

Google Images says a Bored Person is:

An Asian dude wearing a black shirt.

Google Images says a Boring Person is:

An Asian dude wearing a yellow jacket.

So, what have we learned? Apart from Google being racist, nothing.

But I DO feel a bit better just because I’ve created SOMETHING. Sure, what I’ve created is retarded and possibly offensive if you’re a really sensitive Asian guy, but it made me giggle. And I feel less like making a deal with the devil and MORE like going to work on my story. So there. It’s simple. Destroy a creative block by creating SOMETHING even if it’s dumb.

Creating is like breathing. You need to exhale before you inhale and vice versa actually. Create, make, draw, sing, break, fix, etc. etc. Don’t let anything stagnate. Keep yourself breathing. It’s important. And who are you anyway to judge what you’ve created? Who are you to keep your creation hidden inside you? There’s only one you, the worst thing you can do is keep it hidden from the rest of the world.

So exhale.

Love,

MuseGirl

**Editors Note. So my Google is Racist thesis has been disproved! Type Exciting Person into Google images search and you get this chick:

If a turquoise wig and tons of eyeliner don’t say CREATIVE I don’t know what does.

January 31, 2010 7

How to follow your Intuition

By admin in Clarity

photo by IneedChemicalX

Intuition. Like that Jewell song that pissed off her fan base but I kinda liked for the beat and the irony. (That video was full of irony, with the shirtless firemen and stuff…)

Anyway, intuition is something I’ve never really trusted. Which in a way means I never fully trusted myself. But in the nightmare of leaving my marriage, my intuition, my gut instinct kept me putting one clumsy foot in front of the other. And the more I followed it, the more the nightmare faded.

Intuition is an immediate recognition of the truth, independent of any reasoning process. So how do you recognize your intuition when it’s competing for your attention against your fear, laziness, or silly sense of morals? And how do you hear your intuition when you’ve spent years ignoring it?

It’s easier than it seems. Trusting your intuition is your default mode so you’ve got that going for you. You’re human and you’ve evolved from generations of humans who have honed this handy little instinct. It might be a bit muddled now, but you can relearn how to listen to it.

Your intuition is your initial gut reaction to someone, something, or place. It’s your unconscious mind using your stored information to react to tiny almost imperceivable details. For example, your best friend lies to you in kindergarten and says she “DID NOT DID NOT DID NOT!” eat your favorite purple crayon. As your friend speaks, your brain is recording all the minute, lightning quick details of her facial movements, tone of voice, breathing patterns… the fact that her teeth are covered in an odd purple waxy substance. Your brain stores all this info and labels it: “Lookout, someone is lying”.

So years later, when your boyfriend says he “DID NOT DID NOT DID NOT!” make out with Susie from next door, your brain accesses that stored info from kindergarten, recognizes that something isn’t right and little alarm goes off in your gut. This time you don’t even need to see evidence of a waxy substance to know your being lied to (in this case the waxy substance is probably lipstick, not crayon- unless Susie is the same freak you went to kindergarten with).

Unfortunately, most people use logic to talk themselves out of their gut instincts. We have a habit of pushing it away if it’s telling us to do something that’s difficult, socially unacceptable, or just takes us out of our comfort zone. The good thing is it’ll come back. It’ll wake you up in the middle of the night; it’ll make you sick to your stomach as you walk into your office and sit down to do the job you know you weren’t meant for; it’ll make you as uncomfortable as possible until you fix the situation. Of course, there’s a flip side to it too. You’ll feel amazing when you’re following your gut. You’ll feel free and stronger than before because you’re finally taking your own advice.

Hit the jump for a possibly inappropriately personal story and tips to strengthen your intuition.

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January 9, 2010 0

The Save Me from the Pervert @ my Work Fund…

By admin in Uncategorized

Dear people on the Internet,

This blog is going to be about finding your bliss… besides that I haven’t decided. But for now I wanted to post SOMETHING even though I’m not very inspired this morning. (I am getting my lazy butt to Tai Chi class, whereas 6 months ago I’d be popping adderall and pointlessly organizing my makeup drawer. How’s THAT for personal growth!)

Anyway, here’s my first post. And I’m asking for money! classy

PLEASE donate ($1, $5, $40 million…) to my Save Me from the Pervert @ my Work Fund. There is a creepy old man. He stalked me at work. He harassed me. I reported him, he said I lied. They did nothing.

So, please help out and donate so I can quit my job and be free of the pervy man forever!!